OUR PLANS MULTIPLIED
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
I whole-heatedly agree with my commenting friend, Shi, that most people, even those from ideal family settings, could benefit from some counseling at some point, adopted or not.
I'll keep you posted.
On a fun note, I found the perfect t-shirt for Julia's birthday. It says, "we can't all be princesses, some people have to sit on the side-lines and wave at me." That really sums her up!
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Here, he turned around and smiled when he saw the camera; before that, he was making a few alterations to the settings on the printer.
Thankfully, he really doesn't scale the computer desk too often, the kitchen table is his regular domain. Here he is after putting on his boots to head out and do chores with the boys. As long as he has his boots, he isn't concerned about clothes.
On an even more exhausting note, I would love ANY input from adoptive Moms about my sweet Julia. Julia is the little girl they wrote about in the poem that says, "when she is good, she is very, very good - but when she's bad, she's horrid." (Something like that, anyway) Julia is a complete, loving sweet-heart, but she is so, so demanding! She whines and demands to be held several hours a day. I have thought for the last few years that she would out-grow it, but now I'm concerned that there is something actually wrong. When we hold her, it's not enough - she demands that certain people not sit by her, she hangs on our necks, she digs in our hair, etc. The attention she receives seldom seems to be enough and her demands are often so unreasonable that she isn't satisfied.
While I've tried "meeting" these demands, I've also tried not. When I insist that she sit by me during school (instead of on me, in my hair) she will scream. I have sat her on her bed before and she can scream for over an hour no problem. I've given up on naps, because they were commonly a two hour scream-a-thon that didn't result in any sleep at all. I can not just sit her in time-out when she is going, because her volume is piercing and she kicks at the furniture, etc.
While I don't think she exhibits common attachment disorder signs, I do think there is some connection to her early days of switching from a family, to an orphanage, then to our home. On another note, she never performs these sessions for JD; all he has to do is tell her to stop crying and she immidiately stops - but not so for me or my teens! There are days that seem to be an endless cycle of demands and other days flow smoothly, with little hold-me demands.
Any wisdom? Any ideas of where I should go to even know if there is something that I need to treat? Thanks!
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Here's my snap-shot of the last few days. Here's our barn kitties enjoying left-over carpet padding that was awaiting a trip to the garbage can.
Here's a perfect example of farm princess Julia. She has her ballerina outfit with mud boots, holding flowers while hanging out on a tractor attachment. The best of both worlds.
Elijah turned 20 months yesterday; time flies.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Tori and Julia each playing on a school computer -
Ben doing his new Math-U-See. See the guy on the DVD player? Well, he's a math teacher that doesn't get stressed, even when he has to repeat the same thing six times in a row. He is working out really well for Ben (and me.)
However, Elijah is playing "pink puter" as Julia calls it.
Alyssa was assigned the task of watching "Chitty-Chitty Bang-Bang" by her music teacher. So, JD dusted the old VHS off and watched it with the kids. Since it is long, they only got 1/2 way through it on the first night. The next morning, Julia asked me if Daddy was going to finish "Shake-a Shake-a Boom Boom" with them that night.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Speaking of new carpet; it looks great with the newly painted room. Since I needed to use a flash for this picture, you'll just have to trust me that the camel color is a billion times better than the neon pink that was in this room! For the record, it took four coats to cover the pink - two of primer and two of the paint. I've never painted anything so difficult before. Due to this little incident, we will be adding a clause to our contract about having paint colors approved; of course, these renters didn't follow anything in the contract, so it probably wouldn't have prevented this disaster.
Here's my hard-working husband repairing screens, another casualty of the "illegal" dogs. So, this is where we lived before our big move to farm-life. Although I have fondness for this house and I'm still friends with several of the neighbors, I get kind of claustrophobic there with my kids running amok up and down the drive-way. See all the houses lining the streets? I'm really cut out for farm life, where kids can feed chickens in their pajamas on Sundays so they don't mess up their church clothes!
Our friends move in next weekend for a few months, then we are praying for good renters!
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Friday, March 19, 2010
I'm not sure what's happened, but it seems my laundry has recently doubled. I do load after load every day and the hampers never empty.
Here's Tori basking in the sun, with a few pieces of clean laundry.
I'm off to paint; school has definitely suffered this week.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
What is amazing is that he hasn't put them down anywhere, not even when he's playing outside - until this morning! This morning we had to do a thorough yard search for Daddy's key ring. I sent Ben and James out twice to look and nothing turned up. So, I pulled out the "big guns;" a $2 reward for the first one who found them; then I started looking myself. In no time flat, Ben recalled that he had taken Elijah into the barn and sure enough, there the keys were found. Now Ben is $2 richer (and Tori and Julia are a quarter richer since Julia started crying that she didn't find them.)
Monday, March 15, 2010
The girls ran and played while the bigger kids helped work.
Here's the little crew on Sub lunch break. Everyone, except Tori, loves subs, so Tori had a nasty hot-dog.
Other than the cleaning, my only accomplishment for the weekend was doing Julia's hair. Here she is asleep at the counter, poor girl.
We still have a few more hours of cleaning, then a hideous pink room to paint, then carpets to clean; then we have friends moving in for a few months while they build a house. It will be a refreshing change to have someone actually pay rent!
Friday, March 12, 2010
Here's a few from my last few days.
They refuse to answer the phone if we call; they generally ignore text messages as well. They told JD off in a text a few days ago because his text arrived while they were out to dinner! In the "tell off" he also stated that he wasn't "ready" to give us the car or tax money. So, we had no choice but to file the 72 hour notice to vacate the premise. Amazingly, they are now calling and texting asking for more time. It's crazy, wouldn't you think that if you choose to not pay your rent and break all your promises and had already been formally evicted, you would at least start packing?
I could go on and on about the lies, etc, but this is the nuts and bolts. I am FLOORED that there are 40 year old men roaming the earth with such lack of character. It motivates me all the more to instill honesty and integrity into my children!
So, now we have a house to clean; I've been kind of wishing that we sold it a few years ago when the market was good!
Thursday, March 11, 2010
To top off the rough day and my pounding head-ache, our dog bit a neighbor's puppy. Reagan is a devoted dog and great watch-dog, but she took it too far trying to protect our skate-boarding kids from the puppy. Apparently, she has done this once before (although they never told us) so we really have to do something with her. Since her entire life has been these 25 acres, there's not a simple solution of invisible fencing or something. She has proven herself an escape artist when we were forced to "confine" her due to her interaction with a rabid skunk. I need to post the skunk story sometime, it makes me smile just thinking about it.
Today I'm praying for wisdom with the renter, the dog and an over-all better day!
Here's an unrelated picture of Gabriel giving Elijah a ride around the yard. I'm hauling Elijah into the doctor to get his ears checked; I'm suspecting that his previous ear-infection didn't clear up as we didn't sleep much last night and he's quite whiny.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
You wonder how moving the cabinets is going to keep the little guys out? Well, because my storage room now has a door - with a lock! It started with the idea of being able to store presents without concern, but it's turned into so much more. Now the DVDs are always picked up, the soda snipers can't attack AND the presents are snoop proof!
I guess this post could also be part of the faking it post series since I'm admitting that I'm housing present- snooping, soda-thieves!
If you are bored anytime in the near future, feel free to come and help insulate the basement. These are the piles that are holding up my shelves, part two; these insulation piles are 10 feet tall and 6-8 feet wide!
On a happier note, yesterday was Benjamin's 9th birthday. I had a scheduled luncheon with my sister and another friend that had been delayed several times, so I took Ben, James and Elijah with me and we met at Chick-Fil A. The boys had a great time eating BIG meals and playing on the play-ground. My nine year old boys play in there just as excited as the toddlers. We ran some errands and I tried to make it all Ben focused and fun. Each stop held a little surprise, even Cheez -Its and gum made the errand running seem fun to them.
We then came home for Ben's requested lasagna and ice-cream cake. Oh, and presents - glorious presents. Just look at the smile on his face when he opened his new heelies. He has worn his other pair almost daily since Christmas 2007!
He's quite a handsome boy if I do say so myself.
Look at the chaos that erupted as soon as present opening was complete.
I have to add to this already long post that I'm so thrilled that it's starting to feel like spring. I love, love the fact that day-light savings time is on the way and that the kids can play outside more.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Then JD had to finish drilling the holes for the Geo-thermal that needs to be run in that area.
While I took Alei to David's Bridal to be fitted for a bridesmaid dress, JD kept the kids and built the shelves that we bought back at Christmas on clearance.
Yesterday, we re-organized and re-loaded the shelves. After never having good storage, this is a beautiful picture to me!
When we use up the insulation piles on the other side of the room, I get more shelves! Oh, happy day!