JD and I are preparing to share on adoption at a friend's church tomorrow night. Several times I've thought how it's such a bad time for me to be encouraging to others that are considering embarking on this journey, just because I'm facing such challenges at this point. To be honest, only some of my challenges are adoption related, but adoption involves parenting and I'm finding parenting to be a big challenge at this moment. Of course, this is all just emotion and I firmly believe that adoption is a calling that doesn't sway based on emotion. (Knowing something and engaging that knowledge are two different things however!)
We all know plenty of divorced people, but does anyone ever feel the need to warn newly engaged couples that they may not want to advance due to the threat of divorce? We certainly all also know some biological children that have caused their parents serious grief. Do we ever warn young couples that they should consider not having children due to the possibility that they may turn out to be criminals? Somehow, while the previous examples seem ridiculous, many people feel the need to share every adoptive failure story that they've seen and heard over the years with anyone who is considering adopting. I assure you, the majority of adoptive parents are more than aware of the risks involved, but choose to advance in spite of their fear, because it's a direct calling in Scripture to care for the widows and orphans. There are many, many people that willingly adopt children that they know will bring more sorrow than joy. This is a hard reality for me, but brings me right back around to the truth I know of adoption versus the emotion I'm dealing with now.