So, today was our big day with Julia at the attachment center in Charlottesville, VA. JD and I left at 6:30 a.m. since we had to be there by 8:30. My sister got on the road with Julia and Elijah around 8:00 for Julia's appointment at 10:00. My sister then took Elijah to the Children's Museum for the two hours that we had to be with Julia. At noon we all broke for a one hour lunch, then my sister headed home with both little kids while JD and I had to stay for the afternoon as well. By the time we arrived home, it was a full 12 hour day and I only saw Elijah for a quick lunch. Thankfully, he did really well for my sister most of the day.
The surprising conclusion is that both doctors concluded that Julia does NOT have an attachment disorder; while this is good news, it doesn't mean she is in the clear. As Alei put it so well - "well, she has something!" So true, and the psychologists saw the something as well! So, they are going to be analyzing the videos, our paperwork, their notes and give us a recommendation. They already referred me to a few "attachment" psychologists, so they still think she will benefit from their care.
So, all in all, it's kind of a mystery to me, but it's a step in the right direction. Although I know there is still an obstacle in our path, it was a bit of relief to hear them rule out a true attachment disorder.